I'm actually still living at home, but we have the house organised in such a way that we can live separate lives. She is a cake decorator so she pretty much has a fully functioning kitchen in her cake room. She also has a bedroom next door. It's a dormer bungalow, so that takes up the entire upper floor. It's about as ideal as it can be for such a situation. So far it's working out pretty good. I mean our paths still cross a lot, but we're mature enough to act as adults and not be petty. We can still get along. It's also good that the kids still have us both.
However all this could change. 3 days after she told me she wanted to end it, she informed me that she was seeing someone else (of course I have my suspicions that she was seeing him long before that, but that's another story). Either way, after 13 years of marriage (20 years together in total) I felt a bit hard done by. Yes, it has been dead for the last couple of years but I would have rathered to try and work things out. So she may or may not move out further down the line.
Anyway, 3 months later, I'm much happier about things and I'm ready to move on. I decided to become more protective of my income (I'll pay my share of the bills and look after the kids etc but no more). So the payrise just came at a great time (if there's such a thing).
I suppose it's still early days but so far so good.
Hey Neal, i am sorry to see your marriage has broken up. I had been married 3 times, so i understand how you feel. Good though that you are getting on with life.