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[richey]

Does anyone have any tips for how to deal with something like this. 

 

My pet cat died a few days ago. He was my best mate   I'm trying to hold it together and not doing very well tbh. 

[dadfad]

Richey, I understand your pain. I've lost several over my lifetime. There's really not much to say. Like the loss of any loved-one, it'll ease over time.

 

You might want to go to a shelter or pound and find a pet, a cat or dog, that has no home and very little chance for the future and save it. Put some of the love you had for your lost pet into the one you've rescued. It might help a bit.

 

Again, I'm so sorry. I know how it feels.

[Herr Rararr]

Sorry Richey. It always seems really insincere online, but I mean it.

[richey]

Thank you both. I'm devastated.

I knew he was poorly but I didn't know we'd be putting him down that day, so it was a bit of a shock and it crushes me that I wasn't around much in the last few days. I was busy and I was out in the evenings after work and barely saw him. If I had known I would have spent more time with him in the last week, cancelled things, gave him lots of attention. He needed me and I can't shake the feeling that I wasn't there for him.

Sorry for venting

[Jay Kay]

So sorry to hear that, my 14 year old pup is my best friend and I know I'll have a hell of a time when he goes. I wish I had something to say that could soften the blow, but I think time is the best healer. 

[Ayaura]

https://www.psycholo...t-hurts-so-much

So sorry for your loss Ian

[w00dy]

i want to say something nice to you, but im a bit spastic and tactless when it comes to emotions. don't feel guilty for not being with your lil buddy every moment of last week, he was a cat, it probably would have done his head in anyway

Edited by w00dy, 30 October 2016 - 12:25 AM.

[richey]

Thanks everyone. 

https://www.psycholo...t-hurts-so-much

So sorry for your loss Ian

 

Thank you. That is a good article - it's good to read something from the perspective of someone who really understands how it feels. 

[Graeme! Yes, Graeme!]

My old family dog had to be put down almost ten years ago. Thinking about it now still gets me all geared up. It's the worst.

[Derf!]

My sympathies, friendo. Haven't anything in the way of coping tips, though. Haven't lost a pet(or ever had a pet again for that matter) in decades and when I did I almost certainly handled it poorly. It's sad to think I don't really remember it that well anymore. Bloody time making short work of us all. Err, anyway, hang in there, champ. Remember the good times, relish in the fact that those times could be had at all etc. 

[sixgunsound]

I had a crab named Kermit. He died like he lived. 

[richey]

Again, thanks everyone.

 

 

https://www.psycholo...t-hurts-so-much

So sorry for your loss Ian

 

Also FWIW you would have really liked him. 

My sympathies, friendo. Haven't anything in the way of coping tips, though. Haven't lost a pet(or ever had a pet again for that matter) in decades and when I did I almost certainly handled it poorly. It's sad to think I don't really remember it that well anymore. Bloody time making short work of us all. Err, anyway, hang in there, champ. Remember the good times, relish in the fact that those times could be had at all etc. 

 

That's actually good advice. Don't be shy. 

 

Apart from that I find getting drunk helps. Clearly not sustainable as a strategy but for now it'll do 

[sixgunsound]

Drunk always helps. 

[Derf!]

That was gonna be my other suggestion, but I worried it might be shit advice. Advice none the less though, and the grieving has gotta start somewhere so why not from a wiser perspective? Or is it Wisers perspective? 

[Graeme! Yes, Graeme!]

Getting drunk is totally sustainable

[Nealio]

Sorry to hear that Ian. I'm not an animal person really, but I do appreciate that many people see their pets as an "official" member of the family. All I can do is give you my sympathies, and assurance that you will come to terms with it in time, even though right now that doesn't seem possible. As the old saying goes, time is a great healer. 

[richey]

Thanks Neil.

I'm not always an animal person, and though I like cats and dogs, didn't want any more pets. We inherited them when a relative died. It used to annoy me that their fur would get on my clothes and stuff like that. But you know what they say. You don't know what you've got till its gone. I'm now finding it really hard because I'm remembering, and regretting, all the times I told him off. Stuff that wasn't his fault. He didn't understand.

[Fender2.0]

Does anyone have any tips for how to deal with something like this. 

 

My pet cat died a few days ago. He was my best mate   I'm trying to hold it together and not doing very well tbh. 

 

get another cat.

Actually, get a dog.

[sixgunsound]

Get a snake. Or a parrot. Or a tortoise. Or something that will die after you. A rock.

[Herr Rararr]

Tough question - would you rather be a cat and have an eventful life and an owner who is a constant (i.e. not having the indecency to pop his clogs and ruin your life) or be a tortoise and live for fucking ages but basically do shit all and lose everyone who's ever loved you?


I mean, I'd be a Gibbon, they look like they have great fun.