Feminism = equality, as simple as that. You may not be acting in a way promoting or condoning that inequality but it's pretty hard to deny that we live in a society and set if systems and constructs that do.
If people are offended ask them why, don't always take it personally and listen to what they say. Sometimes they're right, sometimes they're wrong and often there is no rift or wrong, it's just opinions.
Ask yourself (and if you could explain here it'd be great, for the sake of discussion) why you got so irate, what is that was said that made you mad?
How do we live in a society that condones inequality? I mean I get that there are sexist ass holes out there, but I don't see how our society and systems condone such. What rights do men have that women don't? Equality = Equality. A lot of feminists today don't stand for equality, I've noticed.
Last night, my girlfriend and I were at a friend's house drinking and shooting the shit. My buddy and his girlfriend live together. His girlfriend invited her cousin to come over (the feminist). I didn't know she was a feminist before she arrived. I know because not only did she talk about feminism passionately, she also had an enormous chip on her shoulder the moment she walked in the door and started conversing with the group.
My buddy and his girlfriend just recently moved in together, so this was a house warming party. The feminist asked my friend's girlfriend whose name the house was under. It is under my friend's girlfriend's name. They proceed to tell her just that. The feminist then looks at my friend and asks him how that makes him feel. He replied sarcastically (because he's a witty, sarcastic ass hole, much like myself). He said, "I think it's great that the house is under her name. I got the best gig of all time. If we don't work out, there are no strings attached." He says this as he kisses his girlfriend on the cheek.The feminist, then proceeds to ask him if he actually thinks like that. He told her he was joking and that it doesn't bother him that the house is under his girlfriend's name. She proceeds to ask him numerous questions related to the topic. She was psychoanalyzing the shit out of him. He finally got annoyed, removed himself and went outside to smoke a cigarette.
The feminist moves to the next person (me). We introduce ourselves and have small talk. She asks me how I know my friend and his girlfriend, she asks me what I do for a living, blah blah. My girlfriend then becomes the topic of discussion. Once I told her that my girlfriend and I have been together for almost three years, she started picking my brain HARD. It was annoying how obvious she was about psychoanalyzing everyone she spoke with.Question after question after question. I was extremely friendly to her and answered every question she asked and asked some in return just because, but I couldn't help thinking to myself how awkward it was that she was psychoanalyzing me. I felt like I was taking a test, and come the end of the conversation she was going to tell me whether or not I passed or failed. As I'm thinking this, she asks me when my girlfriend's birthday is. I was quite baffled by the irrelevance of the question and how blatant she was being about psychoanalyzing me. I answered quickly, and I realized as soon as I spoke that I told my girlfriend's birthday wrong. Wrong by 2 days. I said the 21st instead of the 23rd. My girlfriend overheard and jokingly gave me hell about it. The feminist couldn't fucking believe it. She said, "Wow...you've been with her for 3 years and don't even know when her birthday is exactly..." At this point I'm annoyed as shit, and decide to defend myself (I'm also a little embarrassed that I got her birthday wrong). I told her how I took her to the beach 2 years in a row for her birthday and celebrated it for a week straight. I then realize it doesn't fucking matter and I remove myself from the conversation.
The feminist then starts conversing with my girlfriend. She asked my girlfriend if she plans on marrying me. She asked her if we plan on living together any time soon. My girlfriend told her we were looking into either buying or renting a house together. The feminist told my girlfriend, "I would be extremely careful about that." My girlfriend asks her what she means by that, and the feminist responds with, "Just make sure everything is right, and you're not making a mistake." Oh...okay, thanks for the advice, bitch, as if my girlfriend hasn't taken all of the above into consideration. Get the hell out of our business. The feminist then starts talking about feminism and how women are extremely oppressed, and she starts spouting off books my girlfriend should read to open her mind up. This bitch even called my girlfriend a "case study". She said this because she was asking my girlfriend about her job, and my girlfriend drunkenly spoke a little bit about some of the ass holes she works with. I guess my girlfriend has "OPPRESSED" written on her forehead, and this feminist pitied her, therefore calling her a "case study" to her face.
After the feminist made her rounds and psychoanalyzed almost everyone at the party, she then proceeds to tell my friend's girlfriend, "I smell so much insecurity at this party." No, bitch, you don't smell insecurity, what you smell is a bunch of annoyed people who don't like being psychoanalyzed, but at the same time are trying to be extremely friendly because they are here to have a good time and celebrate our mutual friends moving in together.........
The entire time this woman was at this party, there was a giant elephant in the room. I don't think a single person at this party cared for this person. We all just wanted to have a good time. We all have our shit, we all have our opinions, yet we're all capable of putting any difference aside and enjoying each others company. Every single feminist I have met is extremely similar to the fuck at this party. This was obviously the most extreme one I have been around, with some obvious personality flaws, but still...
If you're a feminist, cool. I probably don't agree with a lot of your views, but we should still be able to sit down over a some drinks and enjoy each others company. I'm not sure I've ever met a feminist whom I can do just that with.
so yeah, that's it I guess..
Edited by Fender2.0, 22 January 2017 - 07:47 PM.